A Sophisticate Never Apologizes

“No matter what happens in the kitchen, never apologize” Julia Child, in Fitch, ‘Appetite for Life’, p. 142’

During the movie Julie &Julia, I took an instant liking to Julia Child. She was strong, intelligent, never gave up, and never apologized. Julia Childs wasn't willing to be put in the ‘status quo' female role. Through hard work she showed the male dominated cooking class that she was fearless.

I've haven't had a lot of experience but I do know that cooking for someone is one of the most nerve racking experiences. The reason it is such a hard experience is because it is a sign of affection.

You care for that person and want that to eat and enjoy what you've made for them. Filling their stomachs is akin to filling their soul with love. What happens when I’ve burnt the meal or the meal doesn't come out to the other person's enjoyment or satisfaction? I feel like a failure.

Life is full of circumstances where you have pressure to succeed. A Sophisticate is familiar with pressure and knows that pressure can occur everywhere and in almost every situation in life and a Sophisticate is not ruled by that pressure nor is she perfect. Mistakes are a part of life and a part of her life. Does a Sophisticate give up when she makes a mistake? No.

Mistakes happen. When mistakes happen a Sophisticate just keeps going. When a dancer or actress makes a mistake on the stage they learn to keep going. Could you imagine during a performance an actress making a mistake her being so upset she just walks off the stage? Improvisation is essential on the stage and in life. Therefore, a Sophisticate never apologizes when she makes a mistake she just keeps going.

A Sophisticate understands the difference between an apology and saying ‘I'm Sorry'. An apology is an excuse for some fault, insult, failure, or injury. Saying “I'm Sorry” denotes empathy, an admission of guilt and regret. To say “I'm Sorry” displays sorrow and is an admission of personally responsible for a mistake and failing or falling short in that responsibility.

“It is a good rule in life never to apologize. The right sort of people do not want apologies, and the wrong sort take a mean advantage of them.” P. G. Wodehouse, ‘The Man Upstairs’ (1914)

When a Sophisticate says “I'm Sorry” she is sincere because she uses it only when she recognizes that she accepts personal responsibility for what she has done wrong. A Sophisticate never overuses “I'm Sorry” to the point of appearing too weak or to the point that it loses the meaning behind the recognition of what she has done wrong.

For a Sophisticate, saying “I'm Sorry” is rare, far, and few between to prove the care and love she has for a particular person as well as the sincerity of her regret over her mistakes.

A Sophisticate does not apologize because she is confident, sincere, and accepts responsibility for her actions. More importantly, a Sophisticate respects the value of saying “I'm Sorry”. In the end, a Sophisticate never apologizes because she never gives up in the face of failure or making a mistake. ;D

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