Authenticity reigns supreme when putting your networking on! Gone are the days of cheezy, “here’s my card, can I have your business, please hear my demo”, desperado tactics.
An Awakening has occurred, a shift of consciousness from “Get” to “Give” – SERVICE. And when you walk with this intention to serve, naturally you will transmit this energy to those that you interact with to the point that they’ll be flocking to you like moths to light.
Yup! The shiny “Fake it to Make it” persona just ain’t cuttin’ it anymore, cause people can smell a “Slickster” from a mile away. You better believe it!
Never underestimate those around you. People more than ever, are spiritually, attuned to their environment. People feel more than the words coming out of your mouth, nor do they buy into you just because you’ve got a “Slammin'’” outfit on. Nope, those days are over.
It’s the “Real You” that will create REAL, Authentic, Relationships.
My friends, there is a deep yearning for people to live in Truth, to be themselves, vulnerable and naked and that includes in the Business world.
They say that insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results. And so, if you find yourself Networking and getting no LOVE from those around you, turn within and ask yourself these 3 Honest, questions:
1) Am I coming across a little “Desperado”?
Sometimes people have the propensity to be more “Preoccupied” with their own stuff going on like their personal life or their bank account. What you don’t realize is that you will transmit these energies to others AND, you will deplete your own energy field; people will feel “Heaviness” around you. When I coach candidates prior to their Job Interview, I remind them to park ALL of their personal “Stuff” prior to the interview. It’s the same with Connecting, it’s not just about You. Walk with the intention that you can help someone with your Service.
2) Was I truly being “Present”? Was I playing “Full Out” in the moment?
Being present is SO important. People like to feel “Heard” and “Acknowledged” and if you’re off daydreaming somewhere in your mind, people will feel this and think you’re disinterested in what they’ve got to say, much less their Business. Their business need I remind you that could be “Your” golden opportunity to SERVE and shine with your services.
3) Am I being the “Real Me” or am I putting on a front?
I’m not a believer in the “Fake it to Make it” approach because it just doesn’t work anymore. People’s antennas are UP like crazy, they yearn for Authenticity, it makes them feel safe and connected. You may ask why I use the word Safe, I use it because if people smell a “Slickster” in the midst, their defenses will naturally go up and fear mode will kick in. This isn’t going to make you any friends, clients OR draw you closer to them by the way. Something to think about, isn’t it?
Here’s my final thought. Times have changed; our world is evolving as a collective, consciousness. Those who do not adapt to these changes in the Business world will either get left behind or experience great struggle to connect with their customers. We must not resist these changes; we must rock with it so that we can fall into the flow, SERVE and make a difference in the lives of others.
Abby McDonald has coached and interviewed many people over the past 13 years in the Executive Search business and has developed a love and passion for helping women to discover who they “Really Are” in both their Life & Career. Her latest business venture is www.talkwithabby.com, a spiritually infused, inspirational site offering Life & Career coaching services as well as providing a platform for Advice for those who seek it.
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