So you wake up one morning and realize that the career ladder you’ve been diligently climbing is leaning up against the wrong proverbial wall, and that in order to achieve your creative, financial, or personal goals, you are going to have to make a career change.
We’ve all been there at one time or another and to differing degrees. Sometimes the need for change shows up as mild frustration; at other times it’s clear that nothing short of radical action will relieve us of our discontent. And yet the way we respond after we’ve come to a realization like this has a dramatic impact on whether our next act will unfold organically and easily, or with a lot of needless struggle. Whether or not we’re aware of it or not, we only have two basic choices.
The moment we become aware of a new desire, two things occur simultaneously: First, it enables us to see and feel with laser-sharp clarity precisely what it is we want. And second, it heightens our awareness of the fact that – in the present moment at least – what we desire is not yet a part of our experience. In other words, desire generates contrast.
Contrast calls our attention to a gap between an inner desire and our current outer reality, and this discord creates a point of tension that we register as discontent, disappointment, impatience and a lot of other emotions we typically label as “negative.” But it’s from this very point of tension that an intention is born. The moment we identify a new desire, a powerful message is transmitted instantaneously through every fiber of our being – and in fact, to the universe at large: I want something different! I want something more!!
Our choice in the matter lies in how we relate to the contrast that is created when we become aware of a new desire. We can choose to feel victimized by the fact that we are unhappy in our current job, or we can take our unhappiness as evidence that we are ready for something bigger.
In the course of writing my latest book, The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance, I interviewed nearly one hundred of the most respected teachers, healers, and luminaries of our time and among them was business coach Pamela Bruner. I asked her how she responds when confronted with circumstances in her work that are less-than-ideal. She replied: “I ask myself, ‘Who do I want to be in this situation?’ The answer to this question will vary depending on the circumstance,” she explained, “but the answer is never, ‘I want to be a victim!’ It’s usually along the lines of, ‘I want to be a person of gratitude. I want to be a person of trust. I want to be a person of power who is committed to finding solutions that are in the highest interest for me and everyone concerned.”’ This single question – Who do I want to be in this situation? – cuts through the drama of contrasting experiences, leaving us in the clarity of what we do what, instead of what we don’t.
Most of us, if given the choice, would simply snap our fingers and wish for the new job to manifest instantaneously. And yet if we had the power to do this, we would actually be depriving ourselves of the most valuable part of the manifestation process. The real value of contrast is that it reveals the places within ourselves that are not yet internally up to speed with the external changes we desire to make. The realization that you’ve outgrown your present position or career can be a powerful catalyst for shifting the beliefs, self-concepts, and patterns of thought and behavior that are no longer in alignment with who you are at your core – or who you desire to become.
At every moment, and with every thought and emotion we offer, we are breathing life into one of two realities: a reality that we dread, or a reality that we desire. Contrast is a powerful invitation to believe in ourselves and to keep working toward our success, even in the absence of tangible evidence that we will in fact succeed. It is to live with the certainty that when we lose our footing (and we will), we will find it again. Having it all is holding the image of a giant, blossoming tree firmly in our minds even as we press its fragile little seed into the soil. It’s having faith in what is still invisible to everyone around us, while knowing in our hearts that we are right this moment in the process of manifesting it into being.
Christy Whitman is a New York Times bestselling author, transformational leader, and author of the forthcoming book The Art of Having It All. She has appeared on The Today Show and The Morning Show, and her work has been featured in People Magazine, Seventeen, Woman’s Day, Hollywood Life, and Teen Vogue, among others. As the CEO and founder of the Quantum Success Coaching Academy, a 12-month Law of Attraction coaching certification program. Christy has helped thousands of people worldwide to achieve their goals through her empowerment seminars, speeches, and coaching sessions and products. Christy’s life-changing message reaches over 125,000 people a month, and her work has been promoted by and featured with esteemed authors and luminaries such as Marianne Williamson, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Marci Shimoff, Brian Tracy, Neale Donald Walsch, Abraham-Hicks, and Louise Hay. She currently lives in Montreal with her husband, Frederic, and their two boys, Alexander and Maxim.
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