It IS Nice to be Nice! {REALLY}

“Mom, do nice girls REALLY finish first?” My 13 year old daughter was having a bit of difficulty with a classmate sending some rather unkind text messages to her & she was ready to FIRE back! I have to say that I pressed my invisible pause button as my first reaction was to tell her EXACTLY what to fire back via text {Mama Bear was feeling a bit protective}. I’ve always taught all of my children (2 boys & 2 girls) the importance of being nice and the idea that kindness always wins out. It seems, though that less and less parents are doing the same. So, what’s the answer?

Bullying is at an all time high in our country and because of the ease of social media, it’s easier than ever for kindness not to always come out on top. Let’s face it. I, myself have fallen prey to needing to cancel a lunch date or to reschedule a business meeting and have sometimes taken the “easy” way out by texting the information rather than politely calling and giving the news myself. It just seems easier at times to not hear the disappointment in the voice of another and with texting & email, we have no ability to hear the “tone” at the other end of the line. I am also divorced, so much of our coparenting goes on via text and email. I really do my best to be positive & kind at all costs. I remind myself that even when their Dad & I don’t agree, that words are powerful and our kids always win when we are kind to one another.

I’m probably losing some of you here, as this post is about my daughter’s question….”do nice girls REALLY finish first?” I hit the unpause button and said to her “Yes, honey, they do. You see, in our digital age when you receive an unkind text or email, YOU have what I just used. It’s called a PAUSE button. Before you rapidly fire off a response, THINK about how your response will make the other person FEEL. It goes along with a saying I use often. Taste your words BEFORE you spit them out.”

At the end of the day, you have to ask yourself one simple question. How do I feel INSIDE when I handle a situation in a nice way or in a nasty way? Of course, sometimes you must stand up for yourself, but again, do it in kindness and I assure you that it’s like a boomerang…….it will ALWAYS come back to you! It IS truly NICE to be NICE!

2 COMMENTS

  1. Agreed, Kim, it’s a boomerang that comes back as a hug — and the chance to actually be the person we truly want to be.