January 1st. It's that time of year again. You want to lose weight, get into shape, fit back into the jeans sitting in the bottom of your drawer, or maybe just eat healthier. Or perhaps you want to spend more time with your friends and family, or spend less money.
Half of all Americans make New Year's Resolutions. But, according to statistical research at the University of Scranton, only 8% of resolution-makers achieve their goals. That's about 156 million failed resolutions. Ouch! Why do resolutions overwhelmingly fail? After all, we have the loftiest of goals, the highest intentions. “This year, I am going to stick to it.” But, no matter how committed, the very nature of resolutions set us up for failure. In fact, I stopped making resolutions years ago because I felt so badly about failing year after year. Not one time was I able to uphold a resolution that surely was going to make my life better.
Here's the thing: Every resolution can succeed… with a plan.
Just like we learn to write reports, proposals, business letters and research papers there's a formula to creating resolutions that stick. Just like we become adept at technology, sports or playing an instrument, there is learning involved in making resolutions that succeed. For instance, you don't pick up a violin and instantly know how to play. It takes baby steps, building on each mastered skill until you play your first piece all the way through. It's the same with resolutions.
As you start to think about what you want in 2014, here are seven tips to help you make them work:
1. Focus on ONE resolution, rather than several. Make it something that matters to you. Be ready to commit.
2. Set SPECIFIC goals. “Managing stress” is not a specific goal. “I will meditate for 5 minutes every morning when I wake up” is a specific and realistic goal.
3. Make a PLAN with baby steps. Break down your resolution down as far as you can, to the simplest task possible. Just like you make an outline for a large project, make an outline that includes steps and dates.
4. Make your plan PUBLIC. That is, tell friends and family. Write it down. Your more likely to commit to a plan once you've put it out into the universe.
5. Have an accountability BUDDY. Someone close to you to whom you share your goal and report back to weekly. Best to have a dedicated day and time. Even 10 minutes will do.
6. Celebrate each SUCCESS between milestones. Have rewards in your plan along the way.
7. Focus on the PRESENT. What are you committing to today. Each morning, “Today I choose to continue banning sugar from my diet.”
Slowly and steadily you will see progress, and you will set into motion a new skill set that can be applied to all goals, not just the ones you define at New Year's.
Do you want support on setting goals for 2014? Do you want to put these tips into action? Join me on Wednesday, January 8th at 8:30pm for a Free Seminar: Un-Resolutions: Getting What You Want in 2014. This one-hour teleseminar. It’s interactive, and therefore limited to only 10 participants. You can participate from the comfort of your sofa! REGISTER HERE
Resource: New Year's Resolutions Statistics. University of Scranton, Journal of Clinical Psychology. December 12, 2012 statisticbrain.com/new-years-statistics/
Get ready for 2014. Lose weight, jumpstart your health, make 2014 your year. Schedule a free 50-minute consultation today. What better way to start the New Year?
Melissa Rapoport is a Health & Nutrition Counselor. She combines her passion for healthy living and her background in psychology to guide others to successfully nourish their bodies and their lives. Visit her website: www.melissarapoport.com.
Words of a current client: “When I started working with Melissa I was thinking that it was going to help me end some bad eating habits and get “healthy” around food and exercise. I had no idea that I would end up creating a whole new life.” ~Nancy C., Sept. 2013