It’s like rubbing your belly and patting your head at the same time. You need to find the right pattern to juggle two tasks at once. Even after trying countless times, you never feel like you have it “right”.
When it comes to being a mother and working many women feel like one aspect is always getting shortchanged. Many feel like they can’t climb the corporate ladder because they’ll miss too many of their children’s milestones or school events. Others feel like taking some time off will tank their careers.
So what’s a woman to do?
1. Stop Trying to be Supermom
You don’t have to stay up until 3 in the morning to make “Frozen” cupcakes you saw on Pinterest for the school bake sale just because you don’t want other moms to think you don’t care. You just do what you can do. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. “Frozen” cupcakes are not going to make you a better mother no matter what you may think.
2. Quality Not Quantity
When I was a working mom I used to constantly tell myself it’s quality not quantity when it came to the time I spent with my daughter. If I was with her all day but spent the time watching TV or flipping through my phone, what good would it do? It was more important to interact with her during every moment I could. All that other stuff could be done when she was asleep.
3. Look for Work from Home/Telecommuting Options
So maybe you can’t do it 40 hours a week, but looking into work from home or telecommuting options for one day of the week won’t hurt. Telecommuting is on the rise. Numbers show the number of workers telecommuting is more than three million nationwide. Besides being beneficial to the worker, telecommuting also helps companies to cut costs. This is something to bring up when making your case.
4. Accept the Juggling Act
There will be days you’ll have to reschedule a meeting for one of your child’s activities. There will be some events you just won’t be able to make no matter how hard you try. It doesn’t make you a bad parent. Knowing this will be the case and accepting are two different things. It’s not easy. But, if you constantly remind yourself of this fact, you’ll be in a better place.
5. Ask for Help
Asking a trusted friend or family member to pick up your child for school so you can finish up work to leave on time to make it to the school play is not a sign of weakness. It’s a matter of balancing things out so you can be there for as many important events as you can.
6. Talk to Other Working Moms
Building a support system is important. Knowing you’re not the only one dealing with feelings of guilt will make you feel like less of a failure. Sharing what works for you and learning from others is also key. Who knows, you may be able to help each other out to make both your lives a little easier.
The key is to remember you’re doing your best. There will be some days you won’t feel like that’s the case, but keep on trying. There is no “right” balance for everyone.
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