It’s not really an ode, just a great reason to write about the women in our lives who love us unconditionally and tend to be our go to gals when things get rough.
Moms give us confidence and make us feel like we have everything we need to reach our goals. One of the reasons I’m so passionate about Happy Fix is because of the way I was raised. I have the confidence to start and grow my own business and to spread the joy that was instilled in me as a child. Now, here I am, doing something I’m passionate about and spreading the happiness my parents gave me growing up.
My mom will always be my mom. I am 47 years old and still have to call when I get home from a long trip so she can make sure I’m safe. She worries if the weather looks dicey in any of the far flung places that my siblings and I live in. She calls to make sure that we are ok. When we need advice, she’s always there to bounce things off of and is willing to offer an opinion.
My mom raised me to be an independent, self-sufficient woman. She taught me that it was ok to take chances and make mistakes. Here are a few other things I learned from her:
- Be Honest in Everything You Do—When I was around three or four, I had done something. I can’t even remember what it was now. What I do remember is being in our really small bathroom and not being able to meet my mother’s eyes. My mother made me look at her and said that I should never lie because she would always know. You know what? She did. To this day, I am a horrible liar (this is a good thing) because I know that it disappoints people and causes a lot more problems than it’s worth. Oh yeah, and it’s wrong. I carry that through to my personal relationships and my business relationships. It’s the fiber of who I am.
- Family First—My parents have always put family before everything. When I was in school we had moved around a lot for my Dad’s job. The last move was hard. I was just starting 8th grade and the transition was difficult. A year or two later, My dad was offered a job in Fairfax Virginia which would have been great for his career. Knowing that another move in high school would be really hard, my parents decided to stay put and take the career hit. It was a pretty big sacrifice that they made for the love of their children.
- Be An Active Listener—The key word here is active. When I was in fourth grade, my friend Jenny told me about sex, including the fact that a man and a woman had to shower together before they could make a baby. I went home and asked my mom, who was folding laundry, about it. My mom immediately stopped what she was doing to listen to my concerns and to explain the real deal to me. I knew that I mattered, was important and because it was my mom, I knew the information could be trusted. See Number 1.
- Don’t push—I was just getting ready to graduate high school and was being my sullen, angsty teenage self. I had pretty much shut down and wasn’t talking to anybody. I told everybody who would listen that I was going to Pepperdine University so I could get as far away from Victor NY (BTW—Victor is a lovely town, with great people—I was just being a butthead) as soon humanly possible. My mother ignored my bad behavior and carried on with me as usual. One day, she invited me to go with her on an errand and while flying down the highway asked me what was REALLY going on. I burst into tears and told her that I was scared to move away. I was going to miss my family. She assured me that everything was going to be fine and that this was the next step that had to be taken. I ended up at SUNY Geneseo for college, 35 miles from home.
- Love Everybody, Especially Children—Pretty simple. My mom loves people. She’s an extrovert who is compassionate and would give you her last dime. She loves fully and generously. She would rather love you and take her chances than not love you at all. She drove a school bus and had kids that she honestly wanted to bring home. She loved them and knew that their home life was difficult. She wanted to make it better for them. She’s still like that. She’ll drop what she’s doing to help you when you need it. She does this out of love.
- Age Is All In Your Mind—My mom will be 68 this month. She still gets down on the floor to play with her grandchildren. I’ve seen her race with shopping carts through the aisles of stores. When we are home, she’ll stay up far into the night with us, just talking about life.
My mom is a rock star. She has raised four great kids, has six awesome grandchildren and takes all comers. She is a mama bear who defends her den with everything she has. She loves deeply and fully and makes a positive difference in this world. Today, this weekend, my mom is my Happy Fix. What’s your favorite mom lesson? Share with us below.
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