The Dress: Blue? Black? White? Gold? Who Cares?



This past week, I watched as my Facebook news feed blew up.  The culprit?  The dress.  You know the one.  It’s gold and white……..or blue and black…..Awww heck, I’m not sure what it is but it littered my status updates and got me pretty irritated. Clearly, it was not my Happy Fix.

I love a healthy debate.  I’ve been known to dig my heels in on something I feel passionately about.  I will go toe to toe with somebody until one of us brushes off the “We’ll just have to agree to disagree,” line so we can both get on with our lives.

I don’t  understand spending any  time debating about the color of a dress.  I guess if your ordered it and were disappointed, then you could care but most people did not have (as we say in the south) a dog in this fight.  Why did it matter?  Why did people argue about it in offices, bars, on social media and around the dinner table? In my humble opinion, when we talk about “The Dress” we don’t have to address other important things going on around us.

Arguing about the color of a dress prevents us from talking about, or better yet, doing things that matter and that can truly make a difference.  It prevents us from coming up with solutions to problems that linger in our lives or in this world.  For example, do you know that less than 4% of cancer research resources are spent on pediatric cancer?  That’s something worth arguing about or spending time on.  Let’s face it, it’s easier to talk about the color of a dress than terminally ill children and the lack of resources we’ve devoted to them. (FYI, here’s a good place to start learning about how to help children with cancer and other catastrophic diseases:St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital.)

A lot of times, we don’t do the hard stuff because it takes a lot of time to work through some issues and sometimes we don’t get the benefit of a resolution.  The thing we miss, though is the more effort you put into something, the greater the rewards.

I wish the media, social and mainstream, would put as much effort into issues like pediatric cancer other tough issues as they do on The Dress, Bruce Jenner and Kanye West’s latest shenanigans.  Raising awareness of deficits and opportunities to address them would make this country greater than it already is.

Don’t get me wrong.  We all need a form of escapism.  Reading, watching television (House of Cards started Season 3 yesterday and we were all over it) and other forms are necessary to clear our heads and destress.  I get that.  It would be great, though if we spent an equal amount of time identifying, raising awareness of and fixing the things that are broken  as we do escaping from the things that bother us.

As Happbassadors, that’s our job.  Fix what’s broken.  It may be a temporary fix, it may be a permanent fix but it means something to somebody.  Try it this week.  Pick something in your life or something you feel passionate about.  Read up on it.  It may be personal or something in your community.  Track the time you spend watching television or using other forms of escapism; you’ll know what they are for you.  Commit to spending an equal amount of time on the problem you’ve identified.


What will you work on fixing this week? Share in the comments below so we can all share in your Happy Fix!

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