Fear is known to us all. Like a shadow, it follows us around all our lives – sometimes being a friend and most of the time an enemy. Moving to a new place, new town, new country is the perfect example how the fear can influence us and our loved ones, often becoming a nerve-racking situation. But if humans didn’t learn how to overcome that fear of the new, we wouldn’t have some extraordinary things in the world today: penicillin, potato, space exploration program, X-ray, and many other things we depend upon every day.
So, let’s see how you can face those fears, beat them and come out of the situation victorious and ready for new challenges.
Take a pen and paper and start planning
This is the most important thing you can do to help yourself with moving. No matter if it’s just you or you have a family, without proper planning, relocating yourself and your life will be hectic and chaotic. Making a ‘before and after list’ is a good start. This should include all the tasks necessary to complete before moving, such as packing, transport and taking care of bureaucracy, getting to know the neighborhood and refurnishing your new home. All this also applies to moving abroad, just with adding some extra items on that list like researching the new culture and customs, weather and infrastructure, anything that worries you and might be different from what you’re used to.
Name your fears and look them in the eye
This is probably the most important, as well as the hardest thing you’ll have to do. Whether it’s the case of one, or more fears, the advice stays the same: ask yourself why you are afraid in the first place. Try to see the benefits of the new life, the prospects it will bring you and your family. For instance, in order for your kids to fit in better, take them to the park to play with other kids, or if they’re grown, suggest they go out to a local café or a grocery store. If you’re single, consider this a new beginning, a kind of starting over. Don’t panic, and don’t do anything rash. When you feel that fear gnawing on you, just take a few deep breaths and concentrate on the positive side of things. Remember, everything has its good and bad sides, it’s only a matter of what you want to see.
Out with the old, in with the new
Of course you’re not going to throw away your stuff. But bringing some new things into your new place can brighten up the situation. First things first – pack. This is also an important step and experienced removalists suggest a creative approach: make three piles: take, give and throw away, or name them any way you want, but leave the intention behind them the same. We tend to keep things we don’t need and this is the perfect opportunity to clean up that bulk you have in the back of your closet or stored in the basement. And then, in accordance with your budget, buy yourself new drapes, that lamp you always wanted or even a new TV set, whatever you can afford and will turn your new place into a new home.
Don’t give yourself a hard time
When it comes to moving to a new place, at whatever geographical location it may be, you are your best friend. So go easy on yourself. Visit your favourite spots in the soon to be old neighbourhood. Try that old chestnut – talking to yourself in the mirror. Positive emotions are going to give you the strength you need to overcome the fear of the unknown. Read Internet articles on the experiences of other people who went through the same or similar situations. Regularly keep in touch with friends and family members you left behind, but don’t be too clingy. And try to meet new people and neighbours, that will surely help you settle in more quickly.
Moving is sort of a fresh start, a kind of restart of your life. It doesn’t have to be a grand farewell to everything you were before, it’s just a jump-start to keep you going forward. A new home can mean an improved version of you, someone ready to catch the wind in their sails and head towards new horizons.
So, good luck and cheers to new beginnings!