Grey Hair Pride

Caption: Photo courtesy
Caption: Photo courtesy

Hair is said to be our crowning glory. Whilst it’s not exactly a crown, my hair is the most important element in making me feel good about my appearance: hair OK – I’m OK.

Being a fair-haired child, in my mind’s eye I’m blonde, but I began to go dark in my twenties, and so began 40 years of highlighting. Now I’m greyer than mouse and I am considering going natural.

Whilst I ponder, other women are enthusiastically embracing their ‘fabulous grey locks’, and shouting about it – ‘Glad to be grey’. A group of women, fed up with using chemicals, and the cost and time attached to dying, staged the ‘Silver Sister Strut’ in Times Square, New York. Organiser Cindy Joseph said “We are the women that we wish we’d had in our lives, if they weren’t busy getting their hair dyed. Sensuality doesn’t wane as you get older”, she says, “It’s still there.”

It can occurs at any age

Grey hair, caused by loss of pigmentation and melanin, is more common in older people, but it can occur at any age, including teenagers and children.

Diane Johnson from Banbury is a case in point. A silver streak appeared across the front of her dark chestnut hair when she was in her twenties. Occasionally she tinted it pink and also tried henna, which she said gave it a great shine. She stopped colouring at 40, by which time she was white.

Katie Palmer from Over Worton, Oxfordshire went grey at 35 and when people said she looked older she dyed her hair. But only once. She didn’t like it so never did it again. Now, aged 64, the most frequent comment she gets is, ‘Where do you get your hair done, it’s looks so great?’ Katie says, “Some of my friends think I’m lucky – which I am – I just wash and go”.

Cut – more important than colour

Another person who dyed it once but didn’t like it (for himself) was award winning hairdresser Lawrence Anthony.

Lawrence, who has salons in Banbury, Oxford and Stratford-on-Avon is running a campaign, ‘Age is Just a Number’ featuring his clients across the age spectrum – from women in their 20s to 70-something Rona Thorogood.

I asked Rona how she feels about her grey hair. She said, “It wasn’t easy to begin with. It’s acceptable that blondes have dark roots, but not the other way round – so I went for highlights for a while. But I stopped dyeing it at 55 and have grown into it”. Lawrence continued, “Everyone wants to look good for their age. I advise clients that it is not the colour, it’s the cut that counts – it’s important to have a cut that suits your style, skin tone, shape and your personality.”

Diane says, “My hair forces me to think about not being drab. I choose clothes, colours and jewellery that enhance it.” She says the comment she hears most is “Aren’t you lucky. If my hair was your colour …”

Hair rules are changing

For decades older women were advised against long hair (drags your face down, makes you look older) that is, until Joanna Lumley aka Patsy from Absolutely Fabulous) exploded: “Bollocks to that!” Even worse, long grey hair was synonymous with witches, frumps and ‘ageing hippies’.

That stereotype is now being overturned by prominent ‘glad to be greys’ such as: George Clooney, Jamie Lee Curtis, Judy Dench, Christine LaGarde, Bill Clinton and Barack Obama. And, during Wimbledon fortnight, who failed to notice Judy Murray’s new hair? I asked a random half dozen friends for their opinion of Judy’s new colour and all agreed she looked strikingly different and well, great!

Grey – the new black? Younger celebs like Rihanna are going ‘ice-grey’ or ‘Brrr’, as it’s called, and loving it because it is unexpected and ideal for those who want to push the boundaries and make a statement.

In response to the grey panthers demands, there are now several ranges of hair products specifically for grey hair, which can change texture and can become dry.

Jayne Mayland, ( created the White Hot range because she couldn’t find the right products for her grey hair and has found a community of grey haired lovelies.

Jayne says “Deciding not to colour your hair can be empowering, but you need to get your head around it first. Wait until you are ready. If you take the plunge, some colour on your eyebrows will help to frame your face and eyes and remember it doesn’t have to be forever. If you hate it, you can always change it.”

So, after all this positivity about grey hair, where am I? “Hello… is that the hairdressers …Urm …?”

© 2013 Mary Evans Young

Mary is a qualified psychotherapist and life coach. She lives in Oxfordshire, England.

Her latest book (with Derek Evans) is:

Ageing with Attitude, a guide for baby boomers not ready to hang up their boots

Her other books include:

Diet Breaking, having it all without having to diet

You Count, Calories Don’t

Mary is also the Tea Shop reviewer for The Oxford Times/Mail


Twitter: @MaryEvansYoung


  1. Youre so cool! I dont suppose Ive read something like this before. So good to find any individual with some original ideas on this subject. realy thanks for beginning this up. this website is one thing that’s wanted on the net, somebody with slightly originality. useful job for bringing one thing new to the web!

  2. I’m impressed, I have to admit. Genuinely rarely should i encounter a weblog that’s both educative and entertaining, and let me tell you, you may have hit the nail about the head. Your idea is outstanding; the problem is an element that insufficient persons are speaking intelligently about. I am delighted we came across this during my look for something with this.

  3. Thanks for your information on this blog. 1 thing I want to say is that purchasing electronic devices items through the Internet is nothing new. In fact, in the past ten years alone, the market for online electronics has grown substantially. Today, you’ll find practically virtually any electronic unit and other gadgets on the Internet, which include cameras in addition to camcorders to computer spare parts and gambling consoles.

  4. There are certainly a lot of details like that to take into consideration. That is a great point to bring up. I offer the thoughts above as general inspiration but clearly there are questions like the one you bring up where the most important thing will be working in honest good faith. I don?t know if best practices have emerged around things like that, but I am sure that your job is clearly identified as a fair game. Both boys and girls feel the impact of just a moment?s pleasure, for the rest of their lives.

  5. Thanks for sharing excellent informations. Your web-site is so cool. I am impressed by the details that you’ve on this site. It reveals how nicely you perceive this subject. Bookmarked this website page, will come back for more articles. You, my pal, ROCK! I found just the info I already searched all over the place and simply could not come across. What a great web-site.

  6. My brother suggested I might like this web site. He was totally right. This post actually made my day. You can not imagine just how much time I had spent for this information! Thanks!

  7. Woah! I’m really digging the template/theme of this blog. It’s simple, yet effective. A lot of times it’s hard to get that “perfect balance” between superb usability and appearance. I must say that you’ve done a great job with this. Also, the blog loads super quick for me on Safari. Outstanding Blog!

  8. The other day, while I was at work, my sister stole my iphone and tested to see if it can survive a 25 foot drop, just so she can be a youtube sensation. My iPad is now destroyed and she has 83 views. I know this is completely off topic but I had to share it with someone!

  9. I’m still learning from you, as I’m trying to reach my goals. I certainly liked reading everything that is written on your website.Keep the information coming. I loved it!

  10. Howdy, i read your blog occasionally and i own a similar one and i was just wondering if you get a lot of spam comments? If so how do you protect against it, any plugin or anything you can recommend? I get so much lately it’s driving me mad so any support is very much appreciated.

  11. When I originally commented I clicked the -Notify me when new comments are added- checkbox and now each time a comment is added I get four emails with the same comment. Is there any way you can remove me from that service? Thanks!

  12. Thanks , I have recently been searching for info about this topic for ages and yours is the best I’ve discovered so far. But, what about the conclusion? Are you sure about the source?

  13. Together with everything which appears to be building within this specific subject material, your perspectives are actually very exciting. Nonetheless, I beg your pardon, but I do not subscribe to your entire theory, all be it exhilarating none the less. It seems to everybody that your commentary are not completely rationalized and in actuality you are yourself not even entirely convinced of the argument. In any event I did take pleasure in reading through it.

  14. This blog is definitely rather handy since I’m at the moment creating an internet floral website – although I am only starting out therefore it’s really fairly small, nothing like this site. Can link to a few of the posts here as they are quite. Thanks much. Zoey Olsen

  15. Hi! I just wanted to ask if you ever have any problems with hackers? My last blog (wordpress) was hacked and I ended up losing many months of hard work due to no backup. Do you have any methods to stop hackers?

  16. Nice post. I was checking constantly this blog and I’m impressed! Extremely useful info particularly the ultimate phase :) I deal with such information a lot. I used to be looking for this certain info for a very lengthy time. Thanks and good luck.

  17. I do enjoy the manner in which you have framed this particular challenge plus it really does present me some fodder for thought. Nonetheless, coming from just what I have personally seen, I just trust when the commentary pack on that people today keep on point and not start on a soap box regarding some other news of the day. Still, thank you for this fantastic piece and even though I do not necessarily agree with this in totality, I respect your perspective.

  18. I¦ve been exploring for a little for any high-quality articles or blog posts on this kind of area . Exploring in Yahoo I finally stumbled upon this website. Studying this information So i¦m satisfied to show that I’ve an incredibly just right uncanny feeling I found out exactly what I needed. I most surely will make certain to don¦t disregard this site and provides it a glance regularly.

  19. I have been exploring for a bit for any high quality articles or weblog posts on this sort of area . Exploring in Yahoo I at last stumbled upon this web site. Studying this information So i am glad to express that I have a very just right uncanny feeling I came upon just what I needed. I such a lot surely will make sure to don’t put out of your mind this site and give it a glance regularly.

  20. Thank you for sharing superb informations. Your web site is so cool. I am impressed by the details that you¦ve on this web site. It reveals how nicely you perceive this subject. Bookmarked this website page, will come back for more articles. You, my pal, ROCK! I found just the information I already searched everywhere and simply could not come across. What a great web site.

  21. My partner and I absolutely love your blog and find almost all of your post’s to be exactly what I’m looking for. Would you offer guest writers to write content for you personally? I wouldn’t mind publishing a post or elaborating on some of the subjects you write concerning here. Again, awesome weblog!

  22. Good V I should certainly pronounce, impressed with your website. I had no trouble navigating through all the tabs and related info ended up being truly simple to do to access. I recently found what I hoped for before you know it in the least. Quite unusual. Is likely to appreciate it for those who add forums or anything, web site theme . a tones way for your client to communicate. Nice task..

  23. Thank you for sharing superb informations. Your site is very cool. I’m impressed by the details that you have on this site. It reveals how nicely you perceive this subject. Bookmarked this website page, will come back for extra articles. You, my pal, ROCK! I found simply the information I already searched everywhere and simply could not come across. What an ideal website.

  24. After study a couple of of the blog posts on your web site now, and I truly like your manner of blogging. I bookmarked it to my bookmark website checklist and can be checking back soon. Pls take a look at my web page as properly and let me know what you think.

  25. Nice post. I learn something more challenging on different blogs everyday. It will always be stimulating to read content from other writers and practice a little something from their store. I’d prefer to use some with the content on my blog whether you don’t mind. Natually I’ll give you a link on your web blog. Thanks for sharing.

  26. Thanks a lot for sharing this with all of us you really know what you’re talking about! Bookmarked. Kindly also visit my site =). We could have a link exchange arrangement between us!

  27. Great blog! Do you have any tips and hints for aspiring writers? I’m planning to start my own website soon but I’m a little lost on everything. Would you suggest starting with a free platform like WordPress or go for a paid option? There are so many options out there that I’m totally confused .. Any suggestions? Many thanks!

  28. you are really a good webmaster. The website loading speed is incredible. It seems that you’re doing any unique trick. Moreover, The contents are masterwork. you’ve done a fantastic job on this topic!

  29. of course like your web-site but you need to take a look at the spelling on several of your posts. A number of them are rife with spelling problems and I to find it very bothersome to inform the reality on the other hand I will definitely come back again.

  30. Hiya, I am really glad I’ve found this information. Today bloggers publish just about gossips and internet and this is actually frustrating. A good web site with interesting content, this is what I need. Thank you for keeping this web-site, I will be visiting it. Do you do newsletters? Can not find it.

  31. Oh my goodness! a tremendous article dude. Thanks However I am experiencing challenge with ur rss . Don’t know why Unable to subscribe to it. Is there anybody getting equivalent rss drawback? Anyone who knows kindly respond. Thnkx

  32. Unquestionably believe that which you stated. Your favourite justification appeared to be on the internet the easiest thing to have in mind of. I say to you, I certainly get annoyed even as other folks think about concerns that they just don’t recognize about. You controlled to hit the nail upon the highest and outlined out the entire thing without having side-effects , folks can take a signal. Will probably be back to get more. Thanks

  33. I enjoy you because of every one of your effort on this web page. Kate takes pleasure in going through investigations and it is easy to see why. All of us know all about the lively way you create both interesting and useful tips through your web site and as well recommend response from some others on this concept plus our own daughter is actually starting to learn so much. Enjoy the rest of the new year. You’re performing a first class job.

  34. I think that is among the most significant info for me. And i am happy reading your article. However want to remark on some common issues, The website taste is ideal, the articles is in point of fact excellent : D. Excellent process, cheers

  35. Thanks for the sensible critique. Me and my neighbor were just preparing to do a little research about this. We got a grab a book from our area library but I think I learned more from this post. I am very glad to see such excellent info being shared freely out there.

  36. I do love the manner in which you have framed this particular problem plus it really does present me personally a lot of fodder for thought. Nevertheless, through what I have witnessed, I only hope when the actual comments pack on that folks continue to be on point and in no way embark on a tirade of some other news du jour. Yet, thank you for this superb piece and though I can not go along with it in totality, I regard your point of view.

  37. Wonderful blog! I found it while searching on Yahoo News. Do you have any suggestions on how to get listed in Yahoo News? I’ve been trying for a while but I never seem to get there! Cheers

  38. Thank you a bunch for sharing this with all people you actually recognize what you’re speaking about! Bookmarked. Kindly also seek advice from my site =). We could have a hyperlink alternate contract among us!

  39. We stumbled over here different web address and thought I may as well check things out. I like what I see so now i am following you. Look forward to exploring your web page for a second time.

  40. Fantastic beat ! I wish to apprentice whilst you amend your site, how can i subscribe for a weblog web site? The account helped me a applicable deal. I had been tiny bit acquainted of this your broadcast provided bright clear concept

  41. Hi there! This is my first visit to your blog! We are a team of volunteers and starting a new initiative in a community in the same niche. Your blog provided us valuable information to work on. You have done a marvellous job!

  42. Today, I went to the beach with my kids. I found a sea shell and gave it to my 4 year old daughter and said “You can hear the ocean if you put this to your ear.” She put the shell to her ear and screamed. There was a hermit crab inside and it pinched her ear. She never wants to go back! LoL I know this is completely off topic but I had to tell someone!

  43. Have you ever thought about publishing an ebook or guest authoring on other sites? I have a blog centered on the same topics you discuss and would love to have you share some stories/information. I know my readers would appreciate your work. If you’re even remotely interested, feel free to send me an email.

  44. Thank you for the sensible critique. Me & my neighbor were just preparing to do some research about this. We got a grab a book from our local library but I think I learned more clear from this post. I am very glad to see such great info being shared freely out there.

  45. I must convey my admiration for your kind-heartedness supporting individuals that need help on that area. Your very own commitment to getting the solution around was surprisingly productive and have allowed most people much like me to attain their targets. Your new warm and friendly advice can mean much to me and a whole lot more to my fellow workers. With thanks; from everyone of us.

  46. This blog is definitely rather handy since I’m at the moment creating an internet floral website – although I am only starting out therefore it’s really fairly small, nothing like this site. Can link to a few of the posts here as they are quite. Thanks much. Zoey Olsen

  47. Thanks, I have recently been searching for information approximately this subject for a while and yours is the greatest I’ve discovered so far. However, what about the bottom line? Are you sure about the supply?


Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here