I Am Such A Hypocrite


It’s amazing how hypocritical I can be sometimes…

I speak to existing and potential clients all the time about the importance of delegating in order to put the focus back on what they love and grow their business, and here I am starting to approach that point in my own business and I’m fighting it as hard as I can.

We all know how easy it is to give advice rather than take it and well…that is me right now. I have been through this situation with my own clients and have gotten them through it so you would think that I would be familiar with the feelings involved and know how to handle them personally; wrong!

And that is where the hypocrisy comes in: how is it that I can tell my clients to trust me enough to work together so that I can help them with their business and I can’t do the same? I am a bit of a control freak so the thought of giving up some of my tasks, even ones I know I shouldn’t be doing any more, gives me a little bit of anxiety. I feel like whoever I give these jobs to won’t do it as well as I can or it would be easier for me to just do it myself rather than train someone else how to do it. Sound familiar?

As a virtual assistant, I have heard this argument many times before and showed how illogical it is by how much time and money is saved when my clients decide to work with me. My business is growing and if I want to experience the same success that I am helping my clients achieve I have to listen to my own advice and find my own VA.

I had the pleasure of speaking with Rochefel Rivera, a fellow virtual assistant from the Philippines on Monday and she gave me some very sound advice in dealing with my dilemma since she had recently gone through the same thing. Rochefel’s business is growing quickly and she wants to put the focus on what she really enjoys doing which is training, so she hired a VA and things are working out very well. I asked her how she dealt with the feelings of letting go and she said that part of her ease in doing so was that she found a virtual assistant that she was familiar and comfortable with. Rochefel also said that she started her VA out with a few basic tasks and then as she felt more comfortable with her work, she turned over more tasks and was able to switch her focus to growing her business.

I can’t tell you how much better I felt after speaking with Rochefel. She assured me that my feelings were not out of line and that it is perfectly normal to be protective of all the work I put into my business. She reminded me that it is our job as VAs to ease our clients’ fear and show them all the benefits that working with us can bring. I know this, I’ve said it, but it’s amazing how stubborn I can be at times and hearing it from someone else was just the push I needed.

While I’m not quite ready to hire my own virtual assistant just yet, I know I will need to do so before the end of the year so I need to start getting my mind and the tasks together for a smooth transition. I’m amazed at how hypocritical I can be sometimes but I’ve learned my lesson thanks to some help from a fellow VA.

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