I need help. There. I said it. I’m gonna go out on a limb here and confess something that a lot of people will relate to, but few will say. I’m a mom, so for me to openly admit that I am NOT, in fact, physically or emotionally capable of taking on the world – with time left over for a mani-pedi – is pretty huge. But I’ve also come to the recent conclusion that if I don’t ask for help, then I may as well kiss my blog goodbye.
Here’s the deal. I know I’m not the first stay at home mom who is trying to find my ‘place’ in the wild, wild west – aka, the social-media-mom-blog community. I love to write, and have been told at various times throughout my life that I’m actually pretty good at it. After coming out of the initial shock of parenthood (or as it’s more affectionately called, ‘Baby’s First Year’), I started to see that I could easily marry my passions for motherhood and writing – wait, and it’s possible to make some money? I’m in! Sound familiar?
So, off I go to do the initial web site set up. Can’t figure out how to lay the site out quite the way that I want it, but as long as I can start adding content, I’ll be fine. Rookie mistake, but we’ll revisit that little self-conversation later. Set up a Twitter account for my blog, and steadily gained followers. I know that I’ve just scratched the surface of how powerful a tool Twitter is for someone like me, but OMG, it can be overwhelming for a new girl! I start seeing all these things that I want to implement in to my own blog – Giveaways! Sponsored Reviews & Tweets! Twitter Parties! Refer Other Bloggers! Bloggers Wanted! Next thing I know, my precious time – however much it may be that day – is up and I still haven’t implemented any of these great features on my own blog…because I have no idea how, nor do I have the time to dedicate to learning the ins-and-outs of the program.
Well, OK, that’s not entirely true. I could make the time to learn it, but that sort of stuff is of ZERO interest to me and while we’re being honest, who ever dedicates 110% to something that they aren’t even remotely interested in, no matter what the payoff is? We live in an instant gratification world, and this Mama is no different. If I have, say, an hour of computer time in a day, that’s not enough time to learn and/or implement even one new feature. Oh, no, you say? You try watching a tutorial with a 2 year old and let me know how that goes. Maybe I’m lazy. Maybe that’s why only the strong survive, and if I wanted it bad enough I’d find a way, blah blah blah. But here’s reality:
First and foremost, I am a mother…and if I’m going to stay at home with my son (and any future children), I am going to be present for as many moments that I can be with him. We aren’t going to stay home from the splash pad because Mommy wants to figure out how to run ads through the back end of her website. I’m sure in a few years when he wants nothing to do with me, I’ll have plenty of time on my hands, but for now, I’m his world and I like it that way. I am not taking for granted how blessed I am to be able to stay home with him – we have a blast, that little guy and me. I want to share with other moms all the fun stuff that I do with my toddler, but not at the expense of actually DOING those things. Sleep is also something I refuse to intentionally sacrifice…but that’s another blog topic altogether.
I have a sneaking suspicion that I am not the only person who knows that they can have an impact on a certain community or demographic, but has no idea how to make it happen. It makes me sad to think about how many people probably came to the same conclusions as I have above and let the panic scare them away from even trying. I’m a big believer in the whole “reap what you sow” thing, and I’d like for my blog to be a complement to my already-pretty-awesome life, not for it to become my life. I’m not looking for fame or fortune, just to supplement our income while doing something that I’m passionate about. That being said, I am placing myself somewhere in between the person who gets overwhelmed and gives up and the person who doesn’t sleep for a year trying to make her dream a reality. I am determined to make this new project of mine a success…it will be a hearty test of my patience and tenacity, but it will happen. I just can’t do it alone. I want to do this the right way, so I’m gonna slow my roll and get my ducks in their proverbial row.
I’m glad I took the time to check myself before I wrecked myself on this one. My POA going forward is to continue to write as much as I can so that when all of the pieces are properly in place, I can come out strong. I’m all about efficiency, but I’m learning that if I really want this to work I’ll waste more energy trying to do things halfway than if I just put all the noise in my head on hold and utilize my resources to lay a strong foundation. The “Plan” also involves reaching out to my core network of family and friends – I’ve got some talented people in my crew, and having a child has taught me that it takes too much energy to be prideful and not ask for help. It’ll also make this journey all the more special, having the people closest to me along for the ride.
So here it is, folks. This Crazy Mommy is here to stay, and you’ll definitely be seeing me as I document my adventures of raising my little guy & try for another. Things will hopefully be changing for the better around here…please just pardon my dust.
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