If Only I Did…

Isn’t it funny how we convince ourselves that if only we did “A” then all of our problems will go away? We do this in our personal lives, in business, and in our relationships. If only I could lose 10 pounds I’d be so much more confident, if only I could spend an extra 5000 $ on marketing my sales would go up, if only I spent more time with my significant other we wouldn’t fight so much…

Although some of the “if only’s” are valid, most of the time, we are just convincing ourselves to act out of desperation. When we start looking for logical reasons as to why we should act on our “if only” we quickly realize that the action we want to take rarely has any long term positive yield. However, most of the time, we are so desperate to make a change that we rarely bother to look for the underlying reason of why the desire to change something (usually drastically and immediately) appeared in the first place. We search for instant gratification and usually end up worse for it.

So, what should we do in order to keep our head on our shoulders and avoid making an impulsive mistake? Ask yourself the following questions:

    • Why am I doing this?
    • Are there other ways to improve my current situation?
    • What are the drawbacks to my plan?
    • Will it have a positive, measurable, lasting change?
    • Can this be developed into a long term, effective plan which is executable with the resources that I already have or can easily obtain?


Answering the following questions will help you weed out those “if only’s” that are flawed and help you develop those that are beneficial to you, your business, your relationships or all of the above. The next step is to formulate a detailed plan with a set of clear long and short term goals, deadlines and a list of required resources.

Once there is a clear plan in place, there is no need for an “if only”. When you make a plan, you take charge of your life and refuse to continue being a victim of your circumstance. Remember, you are in control.

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