A few days ago I was looking for something different to listen to other than my usual NPR and ESPN Radio shows. In searching through podcast selections on my iPad, I came across The Jillian Michaels Show.
Now I am very familiar with Jillian Michaels from The Biggest Loser and the fact that I own several of her workout DVDs. I have always said that if I had the money I would hire her as my personal trainer because she is just the type of person I need to get me in shape. She is no-nonsense, very straight forward, and calls you out when needed and I really like that. I affectionately call her the ‘little monster’ and I mean that with all due respect.
Anyway the show that I stumbled across that day was called “Do you have my back?” and in it, Jillian talked about her disappointment with what she saw as a lack of women coming together to support each other. She talked about how some groups seem to just come together and have each other’s back; she also spoke about the ‘old boys network’ but that she had never heard of an ‘old girls network’. She asked why that was and said that it had a lot to do with the fact that rather than coming together to support, encourage, and help one another women seem to be very judgmental and critical of each other. Rather than building up and recognizing that helping another woman is helping yourself, some women seem to do everything they can to tear each other down. Jillian also mentioned a specific case where another woman went out of her way to defend her on an issue and how touched she was by that because it wasn’t something she experienced on a regular basis.
As Jillian was speaking about these things I was nodding my head in agreement and saying amen to the iPad as if she could hear me. I personally have experienced negative, judgmental, and discouraging behavior from some women that I’ve considered friends, and I’ve cut those people out of my life as I have no time or patience for that in my life. I’ve also experienced love, support, and encouragement from women as well and that has helped me get to the place where I am now.
I have met some amazing women who have become dear friends of mine that I know I can call day or night if I’m feeling down or stressed and they will offer words of love and support and get me through a difficult time and they know they can do the same. I can also call (or text and email) these same women with good news about something going on in my life and they will be just as happy for me as if it happened to them, and that joy is truly heartfelt.
In my business as a virtual assistant which is predominately female, I have met some incredibly talented, smart, hard working women who didn’t think twice about helping me with tips, tricks, strategies, referrals, and LOTS of encouragement and support. The virtual assistant community is the perfect example of women coming together and having each other’s back.
Jillian’s podcast really made me think about how I engage and interact with other women and I hope if any of the women that I have personally dealt with are asked the question do I have their back, the answer will be a resounding YES!
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