Currently I am reading ‘A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose’ by Eckhart Tolle. In chapter three he discusses the core of the ego and it’s strategies. How the ego thrives on drama and suffering. So we replay past mistakes over and over again in our head. We cling to frustration and worry about the future, as if that somehow gives us power over the future […it doesn’t].
‘The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it. Sometimes ‘letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on’, Tolle reminds us. Easier said then done… Letting go can be difficult. How can we let go of frustrations with ourselves, our lives, of anger, bitterness, of past relationships?
We give you seven ways to let go, because every day, every moment presents an opportunity to create ourselves anew. To shrug off the baggage of the past, open ourselves up to the possibilities of the moment and take action to create an incredible future.
#1 Focus on the present moment
You can decide right now that negative experiences from your past will not predict your future. Then figure out what the next positive step is, no matter how small, and take it. Ultimately, the only thing you can ever really do is to keep moving forward.
To bring you in the present moment, you can use:
#2 The wristband method
Wear a rubber band on your wrist, and gently flick it when you start obsessing on thoughts of anger, frustration or worry. The rubber band itself, and the little bit of pain that the snapping back on your arm causes, help bring you back to reality [the present moment] and help you stop that voice in your head.
#3 Accept what is and be thankful
To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and helped you learn and grow. It’s the acceptance of everything you have, everything you once had, and the possibilities that lie ahead. It’s all about realizing that every experience has value.
#4 Lose control
We have trouble letting go because it requires letting go of control. That’s frightening if you are someone who wants to know exactly what’s coming next. Letting go is about swapping the things we know and can control for those things we don’t know and can’t control. Close your eyes and trust that you will find your way to a new, potentially better place.
#5 Make room
Growing up, my mom had a rule that for every article of clothing that came into the house, one had to go out. The result was that my childhood closet was a bit tidier than my bedroom closet today. Just a bit… The simple ritual of making room for something new. Letting go of something old is a transition to a new beginning. One full of potential.
#6 Believe in yourself
Believe in your purpose. Believe that your life is unfolding exactly as it should and that you have a divine roll to play in this universe. Believe that holding on does nothing but hold you back. Love yourself, love others and love this life.
#7 Stay positive
Don’t worry if it takes a little time for you to truly let go. The human mind [especially the ego] has an amazing memory and emotional attachment to things, so letting go can be tough. But always, ALWAYS keep a positive outlook!
And the one thing you should never let go of is hope. Someday all the pieces will come together. And you will look back at the times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself, ‘How did I get through all of that?’
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What are you holding on to that’s holding you back?
What’s the first step you need to take to let it go?
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