If there isn’t any forward motion in life, it gets stale. When we are young we spend all of our time moving forward. In school we move onto the next grade. Then we graduate and move onto university or some other post secondary education. Then we’re onto a job. If we’re motivated and good at what we do we move up the ladder. At some point we may fall in love, with the next step being marriage. Then we’re on course to plan our families and where we are going to live. When kids come along we move on vicariously through them and their forward motion.
At some point later in life what happens to many of us is that that forward action seems to stop. We get into what is commonly referred to as a rut. We start to feel that we are going around in circles or not moving at all. Nothing changes. We lose momentum. Our lives come to a standstill. This is not a comfortable place for most people when we have been conditioned to always advance.
More and more I hear from people who say they feel stuck. Being stuck implies that something else is holding us there. I commonly hear; “I can’t go after what I want because my job won’t let me”, “my kids need college money and I don’t have the resources to do anything else”, “I don’t know the right people” and so on. I find it intriguing that the very things we craved to move us forward have become the things that hold us back. Could it be that it is just a perspective we are standing in?
We all have the ability, until we leave this earth, to make choices. As we get older we seem to convince ourselves that our choices are limited or non-existent. We therefore become stuck or in a rut because we just stop moving.
Truth… if we are breathing, we have choices.
If you are feeling that your life has stopped it is because you have declared it so. The next time you hear yourself listing all the reasons that you can’t make any changes in your current situation catch yourself and start to get creative about what you can change. You may have to make sacrifices. You may have to let go of some things but you can keep moving forward.
What do you have to do to re-engage in forward motion and get unstuck?
Caird Urquhart is Founder and President of Newroad Coaching, a boutique coaching firm providing one-on-one personal and business coaching services and also author of 30 Ways To Better Days: How to Rally After You’ve Been Dumped. Find Newroad Coaching on their blog and on Twitter and YouTube.