Planning a dinner party when you’re single can be a very angst provoking task.
First of all, you have to decide who to invite. I know everyone has that problem, but when you’re single, you don’t really want to be – heaven forbid – the only one at your party without a date. It becomes important that you have a good mix of friends so the couples are comfortable with your single status and the singles don’t think that you have planned the whole evening just to woo one of them into your lair.
Then there is the dreaded uneven number at the table. If you just have couples and don’t invite that “extra person,” your attempt at Martha Stewart place setting perfection will go up in flames. Glasses won’t line up; people won’t be seated across from one another and OMG the whole boy, girl thing will be pooched.
Could this be why single people rarely get invited to dinner parties? We throw off the symmetry or perhaps it’s because our couple friends feel they have to find a dinner “companion” for us before adding our name to the list. “By the way, we invited our second cousin’s older, divorced, unemployed brother, thought you two might hit it off.” When did dinner become like mountain biking or swimming? Always have a buddy. You might need help with your fork.
So what to do to make the dinner party experience less stressful and single friendly? Here are a few thoughts:
- Invite couples that are in you inner circle and by that I mean both the husband and wife are people you would spend, and have spent, one-on-one time with. “Husband Friends” are typically quick to jump into the “guy” role, serving drinks and tending to the barbeque. You won’t even notice you don’t have a date.
- Ask your friends to bring two other people that you don’t know. I suggest two as just one person can lead to that awkward set up mentioned earlier. New people help keep the conversation fresh and unexpected and you won’t be totally responsible for the guest list. This will also open a whole new social circle for you. Who knows who you might discover?
- Fill that empty chair with a gay male friend. Can’t say enough about gay men. They are a single girl’s perfect date, welcome at any dinner party.
- Have the dinner catered. Letting someone else worry about all the logistics, allows you to be your own guest. It doesn’t hurt to have a few catering cuties milling about either. Good for a single girl’s ego.
The main point is, whether you’ve never been married, or you are now divorced; stay in the game. A girl’s gotta eat!
What will your next dinner party look like?
Caird Urquhart is Founder and President of Newroad Coaching, a boutique coaching firm providing one-on-one personal and business coaching services and also author of 30 Ways To Better Days: How to Rally After You’ve Been Dumped. Find Newroad Coaching on their blog and on Twitter and YouTube.
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