Where are all the mentors?

Ask many young girls today which females they look up to today and beyond their family members you’ll probably get a string of celebrities. Ask yourself the same questions and you might be met with deafening silence. I was. I cannot think of one female leader, in or out of the public eye that inspires me. Someone who is intelligent with qualities that show them to be human and flawed, but trying their best.

Many of the women that are out there in management and leadership roles are completely self-serving. Maybe it’s because they found it so hard to get there that the only way they could do it was to trample over everyone else and barricade themselves in at the top. But that’s not motivating to me. That’s not what I look up to. And because I have no one to look up to, I find it hard to see myself in a leadership role.

I haven’t come across anyone who can say, “this is how I did it. This is how I keep at the top of my game. This is how I make it fit with my life.” So I have resorted to googling for these type of women. I know plenty who work extremely hard for a role that is 2 or 3 steps from the top. They easily work 80+ hour weeks. They work weekends. Everything has to be slotted in around the demands of a business that ultimately lines someone else’s pockets.

That someone I imagine is not doing 80 hour weeks and probably spending time with the family at weekends. Most likely they’re male. Maybe my view is not the reality, in every case, but it’s how I see it from my level. And I have no one to show me anything different.
If you have a female role model, please let me know. In the meantime, it’s back to google……


  1. Thanks Jessie. It’s the circle of (work) life! Everyone should have one. :-) Popping over to your site to read your article now.

  2. I have hired an intern that has been with me for about 6 months and already have exposed her to the realities of the fashion world she wants so much to be apart of. Of course she was shocked and amazed that it is actually not as glamours as she thought. But getting that dose of reality made her want to get into the business even more. She is graduating from FIDM in Los Angeles with a Visual Communications degree this June and I hope to keep her on with me. As I am building my publication


    from the ground up – she is getting a first hand education on business development. She experiences this profession as I juggle my personal life, my family and children and keep it all together as much as possible while building this empire. I take her everywhere I can with me and to every meeting. I am not a “Boss” but a mentor. I think there is something rare about that. Thank You for the topic and conversation.

  3. I look up to Marissa Mayer, Sheryl Sandberg and most recently Fast Company’s resident writer and CEO of The Bold Academy, Amber Rae. All of them inspire me to do my best in the tech and social media field and utilize this power of my profession to spread motivation to women and younger girls around the world. The advocacy is inspiring and I you’re right, children should look up to them and not pop celebrities.

  4. Why not think of mentors in a broader sense? For example, you could develop your leadership skills, drawing insight and advice from the many fine teachers available online.

    Maybe you are the mentor you are looking for, and this is something for you to source from within yourself. If you stand in that place, you will likely find many people from whom you can receive support and guidance. There are values that we see in many successful business leaders, but the road to success is unique to each person. No one can tell another person how to do it.

  5. I also noticed the lack of mentorship we have in our society. I am creating a community called Mentoring Movement to support people in acheiving their fitness goals and creating new exercise habits. If you’re interested, you can check us out at http://www.mentoringmovement.org, or Like Mentoring Movement on Facebook. We provide resources to help you reach your fitness goals, and we are creating a peer-to-peer support network.

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