Letting go: unsettling or liberating?

Photo credit: http://weheartit.com/entry/216920These past few weeks have been tough. As a working mom trying to ramp up my new start-up baby clothing line, it’s been a long road with many trials and tribulations. Just when you think you have things in order and you can actually plan the next few steps ahead, you get a curve ball. It’s like you never know what to expect and of course that one thing you didn’t think about or you thought someone else had under control is what throws you for a loop. And there you are, troubleshooting midstream when all you want is to reach the finish line. You begin to wonder what you missed – begin answering every ‘what if’ question you can think of. Followed by self-doubt and sometimes pity. Is it me? Was this a mistake? Did I not plan it right?

Ah, the plan. My plan. My expectations.

The feeling of not having control. It’s an uncomfortable feeling.

We all have those moments in life where we try so hard to make things happen the way we planned it. We set specific expectations based on how we envision things to happen and it’s hard to let go. It always seems easier to do it yourself than relying on someone else to get it done. Think about how many times you need to nag your husband to take out the garbage, your mom to stop spoiling your little one, or your sister to help paint the kids room. It seems so easy and yet such a pain to get others to follow through. And when they do it, it’s not when you want it or how you want it.

For those of you who are obsessed with doing things perfectly probably also struggle with taking too much on and getting worked up over the stress of it all. More work, more strain and more frustration. We often feel that keeping control and getting it right will make our lives easier, better and happier but sometimes it makes us more miserable. If only people could get it done, get it right and get going!

Lately, I’ve come to realize that sometimes it’s ok to be less than perfect. It’s rather liberating to just let go. Leave that laundry for a couple days. Let the toys linger for a few hours. Let the little one splash water all over the place while he takes his bath. Things will get done. They always do. And no one will know the difference except you. Sometimes it gives you more control by letting go and shaping your outcomes in harmony with the world rather than trying to force the world to sing your tune. It all works out in the end. It’s just the way the world works.

So as I continue to get comfortable with this unsettling but liberating feeling of letting go, I challenge you to do the same.

Take a deep breath and let it go! Enjoy the moment.

And if you’re keen on checking out what I’ve been working so hard on, I invite you to explore my debut A/W ’13 collection for baby boys at www.noreenkidwai.com

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